You get to a point where you can feel like you are defined by this thing that is happening to you, that you didn’t choose, that somebody imposed on you. That’s when I say, go back to those people who love you and care about you and realize that this is something that is happening to you. It is not who you are. You are not a victim. You are a whole human being with a lot of skills and a lot of gifts that will define who you are, and you should refuse to be defined by an incident. Remember those things that made you who you were before it happened.